Do you at times feel like your family is a time bomb just waiting to explode? Well, conflicts are a normal part of our family lives though they tend to be frustrating and exhausting. At times, the conflicts are too intense and frequent that we loathe the idea of going home. However, the good news is that each family experiences these challenges and they can be handled.
The first thing that you need to realize is that constant conflicts take a toll on your family relationship and can also affect your health. Additionally, yelling doesn’t have to be the only way of resolving a conflict. Therefore, if you are constantly having fights in your family, here are a few tips on how to reduce them.
Start by being clear about your expectations. Most conflicts arise from the fact that people do not understand rules and expectations. For instance, If you make it clear that your child shouldn’t go to a friend’s house without completing the given chores, then you will have a reason to reprimand them if they break this rule. Specifying your expectations goes hand in hand with open communication. That means communicating to your spouse and kids about your plans so that they do not conflict.
At times, family conflicts stem from the way we address some issues. Thus, it is necessary to be cautious of the tone we use when comunicating. Even when extremely tired or angry, it is advisable to use a calm tone. Using a tone that is harsh and disrespectful will only aggravate the conflict.
It is also important to exercise understanding and patience in some issues instead of raising a conflict out of them. For isntance, instead of getting mad at your spouse because he is late for dinner, wait for them to arrive then discuss the matter calmly.